Parenting

In the last article I referred to the book “Understanding the reason why a child cries” by Hideo Abe (Riyon-sha).I would like to write about more things that I learnt from this book.
The act of crying
Conveying their desire to create their being

There is a story of Sumire, age 10, in his book.
“Sumire was watching an animation TV program last night. It contained violent actions, so I said that I didn’t want her to watch this TV program. Sumire cried, but I really didn’t want to let her watch this program. What can I do?”
Mr Abe asks that would you say “Why are you crying? It’s only a TV program.” Or “Tell me why you are crying? You are 10 years old, you should be able to explain it to me.”
Is it only me that agrees with Mr Abe when he says, “Even adults cry when the chips are down.”

Mr Abe explains in this way;
Sumire cried because she wanted to send her desire: “I want to watch this program. Let me!!” She did it in a very straightforward manner. Maybe she was trying to send the message that if I don’t watch this program I will be left out from my peers because everyone is watching it.”

Children send important messages to parents by crying.
What will happen inside of the child who was allowed to cry and have their emotion understood, or felt that they have been heard? Mr Abe says that it is the root of happy growth which grows into self-confidence, a sense of reassurance, and self-esteem. How important is that!!